Dear Holly, My girlfriend of several years keeps pestering me to make things official and marry her. Although I'm not wholly opposed to the idea, I am slightly worried that marriage could ruin our relationship completely. I've seen it happen too many times to other people: as soon as you put a ring on her finger it's like a man-trap snapping shut on your leg, and you are forever caught in a life of dismal servitude to a sour-faced, tyrannical spouse. Everywhere I go I can see it in the eyes of already-married men: they have a haunted, pleading look which screams, silently, 'SAVE YOURSELF!' as they stand behind their captor in BHS. Any suggestions?Brian,Swansea 

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